Things that kept me from achieving happiness:
- Pleasing others
- Scared of what other people think
- Scared to go after my goals
- Feeling it was too late for me to achieve the life I wanted
It has been extremely hard to change my mindset and putting myself, my goals in life, and my well being first. Pleasing others and making sure everyone around me is happy tends to take away from making myself happy. There is nothing wrong with caring about your friends and family but taking care of yourself first should always be your first priority. If you were the best possible version of yourself, think of how much more you could help others! Loving yourself and being happy in your own skin and with your own life will ultimately allow you to project that onto other people.
As someone with anxiety, caring about what other people think of me has consumed my life. It has pushed me into paths of life that I wasn't sure I was supposed to be on. It has made me question what type of person I am to my core. Unfortunately it has made me second guess my worthiness as a person, student, athlete, friend, girlfriend and daughter. Caring about what other people think has been the death of me. It held me back from trying things and pursuing goals I had for myself. It is like Rachel Hollis says (if you don't know her I suggest you look her up), you do not have a fear of failure, you have a fear of failing in front of other people and what they will think about you. But the bottom line is who the hell cares. It has taken me a long time to start a blog out of people's opinions but it has been one of the most fulfilling aspects of my life.
Learning to be confident in myself and the choices I make in life has been a struggle for as long as I can remember. Looking in the mirror and not being completely confident in myself physically and mentally has caused a lot of negativity in my life. With lots of practice and slowly doing things I love versus those that I feel I must be doing, I have slowly gotten closer and closer to becoming confident in myself. A lot of my happiness stems from confidence in myself.
I am slowly learning to take the opportunities life gives me. Instead of wondering what is important to other people, I need to start looking inside myself for what I think is important. I have always had a dream of becoming a strong voice as a mental health and wellness advocate. But with that I have struggled with the judgements of others which has held me back in chasing my goals in life. I gave begun to take steps forward in the right direction by choosing myself and what I want over others opinions of me and what I am doing.
Too long have I allowed others opinions of me stop me from chasing my dreams and being happy. I am making it a priority to put myself out there and take chances and risks. I hope whoever is reading this can look at themselves and think about whether they are living their best life or not. And I hope you can start choosing your happiness over others opinions.
Until next time,
Xo,
Dani
Wednesday, November 20, 2019
Sunday, November 3, 2019
Journey to Happiness
Happiness can be a state of mind and a state of well being.
For some of us this state is hard to achieve on a daily basis.
It's not that we don't want to be happy.
But sometimes it is physically not possible that day.
Wanting to be happy but feeling like I physically can't has been one of the most frustrating aspects of my life. Sometimes it feels like I am incapable of achieving something I want so badly because of a constant battle in my mind telling me I simply don't deserve it.
I am on a journey of feeling happy and accomplished. I am in pursuit of finding the things that feed my soul, that keep me grounded, and keep me wanting more.
Something I have learned about myself recently is that I am powered by the feeling that I have accomplished something. This could be small in the sense that I make a list of a few things I want to get done that day and check them all off. Going for a walk while listening to an inspiring podcast, cleaning my room and making myself a meal are some of the things that make me feel good.
It is often forgotten that completing small tasks during a day and getting yourself moving can up lift your mood. It is tough somedays when your staring at a wall and can't help but spiral with negative emotions and thoughts. The easiest way for me to get out of that spiral is turning on an inspirational podcast. This allows me to still lay in bed but instead of listening to my negative thoughts I can start listening to the positive up lifting voice of someone else. While listening I like to make my list of what I will accomplish. By this point my mindset has changed and I can take on the tasks at hand.
Finding loop holes in your negative cycles to snap yourself out of it can be extremely useful. Not everyone will have the same strategies, this just happens to be mine and I feel it would be useful for others.
In order to help myself mentally I like to help myself physically first. Drinking tea or a glass of water, going for a walk, getting some exercise or fuelling my body with natural foods and taking my vitamins help boost my mood.
After I have lifted my spirits and taken care of myself physically, I like to make sure that the space I am in is clean and comforting. Organizing the physical space around me, allows me to organize my thoughts and emotions. I love having a candle lit that fits my mood and makes me feel like I have my life together.
On my journey to reaching a constant state of happiness is not something that will be easy. Surrounding myself with people who love and support me will be the first and most important step. Going through this next chapter of my life, everything I do will have a purpose and will take me one step closer to achieving the life I have planned for myself.
My happiness will be in my control. Yes there will be days when I feel low and there will be days where I don't feel my best. But my mental illnesses will not hinder my life anymore.
This is the start to a journey of happiness, feeling accomplished, and getting back to doing the things I love.
If you're someone who also wants to take their happiness into your own hands feel free to message me on instagram (dthardy_) or on facebook.
I can't wait for what this journey holds and to share it with all of you.
Xo,
Dani
For some of us this state is hard to achieve on a daily basis.
It's not that we don't want to be happy.
But sometimes it is physically not possible that day.
Wanting to be happy but feeling like I physically can't has been one of the most frustrating aspects of my life. Sometimes it feels like I am incapable of achieving something I want so badly because of a constant battle in my mind telling me I simply don't deserve it.
I am on a journey of feeling happy and accomplished. I am in pursuit of finding the things that feed my soul, that keep me grounded, and keep me wanting more.
Something I have learned about myself recently is that I am powered by the feeling that I have accomplished something. This could be small in the sense that I make a list of a few things I want to get done that day and check them all off. Going for a walk while listening to an inspiring podcast, cleaning my room and making myself a meal are some of the things that make me feel good.
It is often forgotten that completing small tasks during a day and getting yourself moving can up lift your mood. It is tough somedays when your staring at a wall and can't help but spiral with negative emotions and thoughts. The easiest way for me to get out of that spiral is turning on an inspirational podcast. This allows me to still lay in bed but instead of listening to my negative thoughts I can start listening to the positive up lifting voice of someone else. While listening I like to make my list of what I will accomplish. By this point my mindset has changed and I can take on the tasks at hand.
Finding loop holes in your negative cycles to snap yourself out of it can be extremely useful. Not everyone will have the same strategies, this just happens to be mine and I feel it would be useful for others.
In order to help myself mentally I like to help myself physically first. Drinking tea or a glass of water, going for a walk, getting some exercise or fuelling my body with natural foods and taking my vitamins help boost my mood.
After I have lifted my spirits and taken care of myself physically, I like to make sure that the space I am in is clean and comforting. Organizing the physical space around me, allows me to organize my thoughts and emotions. I love having a candle lit that fits my mood and makes me feel like I have my life together.
On my journey to reaching a constant state of happiness is not something that will be easy. Surrounding myself with people who love and support me will be the first and most important step. Going through this next chapter of my life, everything I do will have a purpose and will take me one step closer to achieving the life I have planned for myself.
My happiness will be in my control. Yes there will be days when I feel low and there will be days where I don't feel my best. But my mental illnesses will not hinder my life anymore.
This is the start to a journey of happiness, feeling accomplished, and getting back to doing the things I love.
If you're someone who also wants to take their happiness into your own hands feel free to message me on instagram (dthardy_) or on facebook.
I can't wait for what this journey holds and to share it with all of you.
Xo,
Dani
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